Long awaited post

Long awaited post...

*big wave* hey peeps, im back again... or maybe not... *grinz* Been Da Chang Jinging these few days... therefore dun really online to blog. Guess i owe this entry to many pple... =P As for the pictures, i'll leave it to another day when i've time to arrange them.

Read the book "Kissing Dating Goodbye" A good insight to many things... 1st thing they talked about is "The joy of intimacy is the reward of commitment" Not talking about sexual intimacy of cos, but the most common thing.. TRUST. We date because we want to enjoy the emotional n physical benefits of intimacy without the responsibility of real commitment. Where is the true value? I'm sure many of us commit the same mistakes before...Commitment is a big word, it scares pple away... therefore, u see many couples broke up cos commitment is never the 1st thing they consider when they both agree to start a relationship. It is always "take a step at a time" rule that binds most of us. Not knowing what the future holds, until any party thinks that he/she can't stay in the relationship anymore, they call it quits. That is so true, and it's still happening.

Singlesshoodness can be a gift too... u get to do things u can never do if u're attached. u'll have more time for ur family and frds. To those who are single, dun whine and complained why are u not attached. In fact, this is the best time to have ur own personal time. Dun rush into a relationship. U'll end up getting hurt or hurting others. I trust God that He had made plans for me, and now i'll just patiently wait. Making the most of my singleness and do what is pleasing to Him.

A poem in the book caught my attention. It is a poem that dare the man to treat a woman right. A virtue that lack in many man in present days.

Do you know you have asked for the costliest thing
Ever made by the Hand above?
A woman's heart, and a woman's life --
And a woman's wonderful love.

Do you know you have asked for the priceless thing
As a child might ask for a toy?
Demanding what others have died to win,
With the reckless dash of a boy.

You have written my lesson of duty out,
Manlike, you have questioned me.
Now stand at the bars of my woman's soul
Until i shall question thee,
You require you mutton shall always be hot,
Your socks and your shirt be whole;
I require your heart be true as God's stars
And as pure as His heaven your soul.

You require a cook for your mutton and beef,
I require a far greater thing;
A seamstress you're wanting for socks and shirts --
I look for a man and a king.

A king for the beautiful realm called Home,
And a man that his maker, God,
Shall look upon as He did on the first
And say:" It is very good."

I am fair and young, but the rose may fade
From this soft young cheek one day;
Will you love me then 'mid the falling leaves,
As you did 'mong the blossoms of May?

Is your heart an ocean so strong and true,
I may launch my all on its tide?
A loving woman finds heaven or hell
On the day she is made a bride.

I require all things that are grand and true,
All things that a man should be;
If you give this all, I would stake my life
To be all you demand of me.

If you cannot be this, a laundress and cook
You can hire and little to pay;
But a woman's heart and a woman's life
Are not to be won that way.

To the girls, it serves as a reminder to keep our standards high. Require all things that are "grand and true" Any guy that asked us to lower our standards for a moment, isn't worth our time.

To the guys, it is no small thing, no game, to invite a girl to accompany u through life. May you earn the right to make such a request by striving to be men of integrity -- men whose heart are oceans "strong and true". Then and only then, should you stand at the bars of a woman's soul and ask to gain entrance.

All these sound too serious? Some may protest.. some may say, "hey, we're not getting married yet, wat's the fuss?" Without all these in mind, we will just end up dating and break up and the whole cycle goes round and round again. Even when u get married, u might end up getting a divorce. Why go to that state when we can avoid it in the beginning?

Just some of my thoughts after reading the book. Whatever it is, it's MY blog wat. =P